“David by Lorde is a song from her latest album , “Virgin”. The main lyric that really stuck with me was,
“I made you god cause it was all that I knew how to do.”
This song is so personal and raw. As someone who recently got into her first relationship at the age of 29 years old, I feel the lyrics to this song so deeply. The desperation to be loved by someone who interests you romantically, is something I believe everyone goes through in life. That is what makes this song so relatable.
It’s begs the question, “why do we run to the ones we do?” To me, that’s a good question. What makes us put people above us? Treat them like gods? We do it because it’s all that we have known. It’s a learned behavior. Most people who resonate with this song are people who are healing from people pleasing tendencies, and sometimes it’s hard to let go of what you’ve always known.
Towards the end of the song Lorde repeats , “am I ever gonna love again?” And that really is something to sit with.
The desperation of wanting to feel loved can sometimes make you feel as though you’ll lose what they have given you for good if you speak up about issues in the relationship. Every relationship feels fleeting to someone who is desperate and deprived of romantic love. Every relationship feels daunting and like unknown territory to someone who believes they have to give themselves fully to get love in return. Love always feels transactional for a people pleaser.
This song also captures the dangers of people pleasing tendencies in relationships. One lyric that really stands out on this topic is “Pure Heroin mistaken for feather weight, but what came spilling out that day was the truth. But once I could sing again I swore I would never let, let myself sing again for you.”
It’s true that love takes a lot of give and take, but when you’re always giving and they’re always taking , there becomes an imbalance. Sometimes a balance of power is needed in relationships because if it’s nonexistent then the more dominant person gets the upper hand and that poses a danger to the person seen as a featherweight.
If you take anything from this, I hope you take away that you are brave, and strong and worthy of true love. True love with perfect balance, and understanding from one person to another. I hope you know that you are capable of having a healthy relationship without the need for people pleasing tendencies. You can do it because you are you, and there’s no one else in the world who is the same. Here’s to personal growth.